Goodbye Perfectionism: Stop Doing That And Start Doing This (Breakthrough Success Strategy)

I recently had an interviewer ask me about my journey from being an attorney to following my purpose and passion as an inspirational speaker, author, and Christian life & business coach..

“What has been the most challenging part of your journey?”

My answer….the need to be perfect.

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about fulfilling my soul’s purpose, but at the same time afraid that I would suck at it.

I agonized over every little detail of my business and became paralyzed by my  need to make sure everything was “just right.” 



Perfection Paralysis Is Real

I can share this with you because I know I’m not alone.

Perfection paralysis prevents many Christian women from achieving the personal and professional success they truly desire.

 Whether it’s starting a new career, launching a business, writing a book, or even going back to school, the fear that we won’t quite be good enough holds many of us back from unleashing our fullest God-given potential.

Instead of living passionate, purposeful. and prosperous lives , we settle for much less than God’s best for us. Not because it isn’t for us, but because we won’t give ourselves permission to make event the slightest mistake.

It’s a dangerous condition.

But, perfection paralysis is not a permanent predicament.  It can be cured. 

Today, I’m going to give you one simple strategy that will help you to stop the perfection paralysis and start moving toward your fullest God-given potential.

Here we go…


Do you ever stop yourself from starting a new project because when you think about people you admire you say, “I don’t think I could ever be as good as they are…”

 Stop That!


 Because you are comparing your beginning to someone else’s ending.    

 When you hold yourself to a standard it took someone else years to attain, you’ll never be able to measure up.


 Here’s something for you to consider—Every pro started out as an amateur.

 Instead of skipping ahead to the end, start from the beginning.  Learn the skills you need to develop now to move you toward the goals you would like to accomplish.

 One of the best ways to do this is by spending time with a mentor—someone who has accomplished the things you’d like to accomplish someday.  Take your mentor out to lunch and ask her…

                How did you get started doing what you are currently doing?

                What skills did you have to develop in order to get where you are today?

                What lessons have you learned along the way?

 Chances are, you’ll discover that the person you admire had to start with similar (or maybe even much more difficult) circumstances. 


 A Step A Day Keeps The Paralysis Away.

 It doesn’t take huge leaps to overcome perfection paralysis.  Taking just one small action step a day helps you to build momentum toward your goals.  I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting,

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New Possiblities



life you want

Everything you can imagine or desire is available to you, right here and now.

All around you there are new possibilities just waiting for you to take advantage of them.

But you can’t…not if you keep holding on to what you already have.

A Point To Ponder

“No one sews a patch of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch will pull away from the garment, making the tear worse. 

 Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.” ~Matthew 9: 16 – 17 (NIV)

A Call To Action

Join us to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge .

Begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams. In this all-new 21-Day Personal Transformation Challenge, you’ll discover a whole new way of being in the world!

21 days could change everything! Sign up now,and manifest your best life!

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[Detox Your Soul] Day 15 – Revitalize Your Life

Are you living a life you love?  

Most people choose to live a life they like or just barely tolerate.  Some people even choose to live a life they downright hate. One of the biggest reasons cited for staying in such undesirable states i s the belief that truly living a life you love is a myth.  

While it is elusive to the majority of folks out there, a happy, joyful, and fulfilling life can be a reality.  YOUR reality.

There are tons of people (just like you) enjoying everyday of their lives – doing work they love, engaged  in encouraging and supportive relationships, experiencing continual spiritual and personal growth with big bright smiles on their faces and true  joy in their hearts. 

Sounds like something you want?  

Your first step to living a life you love is loving the life you live.

The life you have right now is a life worth loving.

If you’re waiting for a problem free life where you have your ideal career, a perfect spouse,  and kids that clean their rooms without being asked, before you feel you have a life you can love – you’ll be waiting forever.

You may have glossed over it earlier so I’ll say it again.  The life you are living right now is a life worth loving.

Don’t believe me?

Ask yourself this one, simple question and see what your answer reveals:

What’s the best thing that happened to me today?

Really think  and pick out the best thing that happened to you in the past week.

Do you notice what happened?  All of a sudden all you could think about were the good things that happened.  Big and small, you began to sift through all the good things that happened to you over the past 7 days to find the best thing.

Made you smile,  didn’t it?

And just to keep you going, here are some other things you can do in less than five minutes to bring more enjoyment and happiness to your life right now:

  • Enjoy a few moments of peaceful silence during your day.  It doesn’t have to be long.  Even sixty seconds of quiet time will leave you refreshed and bursting with energy.
  • Turn on some music and dance.  That’s right – get your body moving…offbeat and all.  
  • Go find someone to talk to.  If you are  someone who spends lots of hours working alone, you’re missing out on one of the most critical components of life well-being – social interaction. 
  • Laugh out loud.  Don’t just text it.  Do It.  Turn on one of those crazy YouTube Videos – you know one of the ones of people doing the funniest things and have a great big belly laugh. (If you work in an office, you may want to close your door for this one.)

See, loving your life is not as difficult as you may have thought. It’s really the simple things that make the biggest difference. 

Cleansing Exercise

Take at least 15 minutes to enjoy your life today.  Choose one of the activities suggested above, or create one of your own.  Whatever, you do…Have FUN!!!

Soul Food

“I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).” ~John 10:10 (Amplified Bible)

3 Questions That Will Boost Your Happiness Right Now

A lot of times I’ll hear people say…”I’ll be happy when….”

 “I’ll be happy when I find the love of my life. ”  

“I’ll be happy when I have my dream job.”

“I’ll be happy when I have more money in the bank.”

They put off happiness as if it’s a destination that they have to travel to. When in reality, happiness is something that you can have every single day, no matter how much money you have in the bank, no matter who you spouse is (or isn’t),  no matter what job you’re going to.

You can have happiness in every moment of your life.


Dennis Waitley said – “Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace & gratitude.”

Today, I have three questions for you:

  1. Where is the love in your life?
  2. How has God shown you grace and favor?
  3. What are you grateful for?

When you answer those questions, you’ll come to recognize that you have a lot to be happy about right now…you don’t have to wait another moment!

Re-Ignite Your Soul’s Purpose

Contrary to popular opinion, I believe Mondays are marvelously magnificent!

In fact, I love Mondays more than any other day of the week.

Here’s why – Mondays are the start to a new week of living out my soul’s purpose. Every Monday, I get up super excited about starting another week of serving and sharing my purpose with women around the world!

How about you?  

For most people, Monday is the most dreaded day of the week.  And, it’s all because they are not doing work that energizes and empowers them.  

This is even true for entrepreneurs who have gotten so bogged down by the day to day of operating their business that they’ve forgotten about why they started the business in the first place.

It’s time for that to change!

And, the best way for you to re-ignite the fire of your soul’s purpose is through visioning.

And, today is a good day to UPGRADE YOUR VISION.

 If you’re up for it, take a few moments, close your eyes and create a wild and wonderful world…in your head.

 Then take the best parts of that vision and write them down.  Put your vision where you can see it every day and you’ll be well on your way to CREATING the life of your dreams.

This week, I’d like for you to set aside some special time to vision what your life looks like when you are truly living in your soul’s purpose. And don’t just think about your professional life. The energy and excitement of fully living in your soul’s purpose positively affects every aspect of your life.

Here are the seven areas where you’ll want to focus your visioning:

  • Spiritual 
  • Personal Growth
  • Work/Business
  • Family/Friends
  • Finances
  • Health
  • Community

In each of these areas, ask yourself – “How will this area of my life improve when I am fully living  in my soul’s purpose?”  Get as vivid as possible – use all of your five senses.  Think about how your surroundings will look and sound. Consider how you will feel – emotionally and physically.  Imagine the things you’ll be doing.

What is your vision of  the life you’ll live when you’re realizing your fullest potential and truly living in your soul’s purpose?

Leave your comments below and share how you’re going to re-ignite your purpose this week with me.  I’d love to be able to support you and cheer you on! 🙂

Here’s to a week of Unstoppable Success!