I’m Celebrating My Failures Today!

Today, I’m celebrating my failures.

Yes, you read right.  I’m actually celebrating the things that didn’t go right this week.

So often we get disappointed and upset because things don’t go our way. It is during those times that we are tempted to throw in the towel and give up.

But as I look back over this past week, I have to thank God for what didn’t happen as I wanted it to…

  • a new group coaching program I was planning to start this month had to be pushed back until August throwing off my entire program schedule
  • two potential client leads didn’t work out
  • I accidentally scheduled a meeting at 7 pm for a project I really wasn’t sure I even wanted to work on.

Whoo-hoo! I’m happy that those things happened the way they did.  Why? Because of those things going wrong, here’s what went right:

  • It just so happened that the meeting I didn’t want to attend  opened up the opportunity to serve as the business coach on a new business incubator project.
  • Moving that coaching program  to August allowed me to use the month of July as GOAL GETTERS month and help more people to start focusing on achieving their goals.

And, what about those two clients that decided not to coach with me?  Well, that could be God’s blessing for you!  I now have two private coaching spaces available for dynamic Christian women who are ready to take their business and personal lives to the next level.

What seems to be going wrong in your life?  What things didn’t happen the way you wanted them to?  Instead of throwing a temper tantrum, turn that pity party into a celebration.  There are great things in store for you.  Remember – “…God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”

Celebrate with me. Share your failure turned success stories in the comment section below.






you’re ALMOST perfect

Have you ever beheld the beauty of bamboo? The way it sways in the wind, green & smooth & creaking softly… it can be breathtaking.  Then you think about how fast it grows, how many useful products it can be used to create and it is, hands-down, a perfect plant.

 How about oak trees?  Have you ever climbed the sturdy trunk of a massive, woody oak & sat in its branches, listening to its leaves rustle in the breeze as birds nestle high overhead? Now think of the homes that can be built out of its strong wood…and the delicious flavor it imparts to wine & whiskey…it too, is a perfect plant.


Do you think the oak ever compares itself to bamboo, wishing it were more slender, smooth and flexible?  Do you think that the bamboo has ever gotten jealous of the oak, longing for more strength, stability & rough edges?

Probably not. We could learn a lot from plants…

The fact is, YOU are perfect, too…just as you are.

I know that sounds borderline preposterous, but stay with me for a moment.  Think about it…your legs may be “too short” or your hands “too big,” but given the right task, they are IDEAL.  So is every other part of you.

In fact, the only thing standing in the way of YOUR COMPLETE PERFECTION is the belief that you should be more or less of anything.  Once you really get that, your world will radically transform as well as the lives of everyone around you.

This is why I’m inviting you to my latest webinar, FREE, as my guest.

Focus On Authenticity:  Seeing & Living More of Who You Really Are

Tuesday, June 11, 2013  7 PM Easern

During this inspirational, CONTENT-RICH 90-minutetraining, you’ll discover…

  • What authenticity REALLY means…
  • How to feel more confident, more often…
  • The TOP 3 obstacles to living authentically…and how to overcome them…
  • How to free yourself from other people’s opinions & expectations…
  • The secrets of feeling more connected to yourself & others…
  • How to gain greater clarity & peace of mind about who you are, what you want and where you are going…
  • How to quiet the inner critic & boldly pursue your passions…
  • How to gain TRUE RESPECT from your friends, family, boss and co-workers…
  • And much, much more…

You will not only discover what keeps you from seeing & accepting your innate perfection, you’ll also learn how to overcome those roadblocks & start to shine as ONLY YOU CAN. Then you’ll be able to have fun and enjoy life WHILE enjoying greater success and garnering authentic respect. 

And all in less than 2 hours of your time!

Simply CLICK THE LINK BELOW to join us for this insightful, eye-opening webinar…

 Focus On Authenticity:  Seeing & Living More of Who You Really Are

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 Benecia Ponder 🙂

 P.S. Do yourself a favor and REGISTER NOW.

 Due to the INTERACTIVE nature of this training, space is limited, and I’d hate for you to miss out.  It only takes a few moments to register…so click the link below, SIGN YOURSELF UP and move forward with the confidence and satisfaction thatyou’re making a profound and positive difference in your life and the world at large.

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Keep Hope Alive

When negative thoughts scream “give up”…hope whispers “give it another shot!”

When we’re facing an obstacle, why is it that the negative thoughts in our head scream at us while the voice of hope is so small?  Especially when you’re going for a big the thoughts of “I’m not smart enough to…” or “I don’t have enough money to…” or “I’m not pretty enough to…” seem so loud it’s hard to hear anything else.

But, I thank God that even the tiniest voice of hope is enough to keep you climbing those mountains that stand between you and your dreams. 

If you find that your “give up” thoughts are lounder than you “give it anothe try” voice – here’s a simple, yet powerful message from Edgar A. Guest that will motivate you to keep moving (and maybe even make those negative thoughts shut up)


“When things go wrong as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–

You may succeed with another blow,

Success is failure turned inside out–

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.”

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What is your voice of hope encouraging you to give another try?

From The Inside Out: The Keys To Stop The Stress In Your Life (Once And For All) – part 1

Stress can have a tremendously negative impact on your life.  It can show up in so many form that you may not even be able to realize it all the time.  This series of articles will help you to manage your stress so that you can live a happier and healthier life.

Stress Is Everywhere


In our demanding world, it’s easy to let stress creep in without even noticing it.  And, it shows up in so many different ways.  From overwhelm, anxiety, weight gain, weight loss, loss of sleep and strained relationships – just to name a few.

But, it does not have to stop you in your tracks.  In fact you can stop stress in its tracks.

Without stress, you’d have…

  • More energy for the things you love
  • More patience with your friends and family
  • Increased overall health
  • A higher state of well being
  • And most importantly – more FUN

In this series of articles, I’ll show you: (1) the different types of stress and how to recognize them, (2) how to head off stress during situations that are normally stressful for you, and (3) how to start eliminating stress from your life immediately.

The Two Faces Of Stress

Before you can learn how to manage stress and eliminate it from your life, you’ll first need to know how to recognize it when it appears.  This first article reveals the two most common types of stress and provides you with some examples of each.

Acute Stress

This type of stress is sudden, occasional, or brief.  You’ll typically experience a sharp spike in your body’s reactions, but the experience of it does not stay with you for long or the stressor itself goes away quickly. Some examples of acute stress are:

  • being late for an appointment
  • getting stuck in traffic,
  • being yelled at,
  • having someone surprise you,
  • going on a roller coaster,
  • being given a difficult short-term task,
  •  public speaking,
  • performing,

Chronic Stress

This type of stress is the kind of stress you might not notice until you hit a physical, emotional, or psychological tipping point or threshold that has built up over time. For example,

  • constant fighting in a marriage or relationship,
  • health problems and illness,
  • financial problems (e.g., debt, negative cash flow),
  •  physical limitations, societal issues (living in a dangerous neighborhood),
  •  work-related difficulties (can’t find a job, difficult manager, difficult co-workers),
  • starting a new business

Acute stress and chronic stress – neither one is particularly healthy for our minds or bodies. Fortunately, there are ways to mitigate, avoid, or diminish the effects of acute stress and chronic stress –and, I’ll share them with you in part two!


Morning Motivation: Finally Experience God’s Best And Never Settle For Less Again

Are you settling for manna when God wants to give you milk and honey?

Translation:  Are you settling for good enough when God wants to give you His best?

So many of us settle for less instead of claiming God’s best in our lives. It is time for total life transformation. Let go of the things that have been holding you back and breakthrough to live the life that God created you to live.

Watch this video as Inspirational Christian Speaker Benecia Ponder encourages you to reach your greatest potential and live life to the fullest with an abundance of passion, purpose, power, and prosperity.


How will you begin to move into God’s best for you?  

Share you comments below.