4 Steps to Break Through Your Fears

I have fears.  

Fear of success…Fear of failure…Fear of criticism…Fear of making the wrong decisions…and, the granddaddy of them all – Fear of not being enough. 

I wanted to share this truth with you today because there seems to be a huge misconception that fear evaporates when you reach a certain level of success. And, that’s a big fat lie!

The truth is every successful person has fears…many fears.   Our success does not come because we have learned to eliminate fear, but we succeed because we have learned to face and push past fears when they come.

Do you feel God stirring up a passion within you to share your gifts with the world, but you’re letting fear stop you from taking that first step?

Is it time to move your business and life to the next level, but you’re allowing fear to keep you stuck in your comfort zone?

My advice to you – Don’t let fear be the roadblock that keeps you from God’s best in your life.

4 Steps To Break Through Your Fears

Fear’s ultimate goal is to paralyze you and keep you from moving forward. Spending too much time trying to examine and eliminate your fears will keep you exactly where you are–stuck and stalled.

If you’re ready to get unstuck and experience big breakthroughs in your business and life, here are four steps you can take today!  

STEP ONE: Face The Fear 

Yes, right fro the start, I want you to take a good hard look at your fear.  Get really familiar with it. Understand and identify it. Give it a name.

Here’s why – Fear is an illusion.  It wants you to believe it’s a lot bigger and scarier than it actually is.  But, when you pull back the curtain and take off the mask, you realize you have nothing to be afraid of.  

STEP TWO:  Embrace The Possibilities 

When you face your fear, you will indeed look at all the things that could go wrong. But, what about what could go right?  What  could happen if you steeped out on faith, pushed past your fears and succeeded? How would your life improve?  What legacy could you leave for your family? What positive impact could you make in the world? 

This is where you take your thoughts away from your fears and instead fix your focus on the destination beyond the fear. 


 Instead of trying to hide from the negative, move in the direction of the positive possibilities you identified. 

Here’s a powerful  truth–Fear is a wimp.  It is the only thing that gets smaller the closer you move toward it. Every step you take in the direction of fear makes it shrink even more. So, take steps (even tiny baby steps) towards your new possibilities and by doing so you break through the fear that once stood in your way. 

STEP FOUR: Repeat 

Remember, success does not come in the absence of fear.  In fact, as you approach each new level in your business, fear will show up.  Before, it might have stopped you, but now, you know how to break through. 

Keep it up.  Each time you meet with a new fear, face it, embrace the positive possibilities, and take action.  Do it over and over and over again.

BONUS TIP: Share Your Fears

Having someone to support and encourage you as you go through the process of facing your fears is powerful.  But, don’t talk to just anyone. I advise you to share your fears with someone you can trust. Someone who will not judge or criticize you. And, most importantly, someone who can help you move past your fears and into action towards your dreams.

And, if you need me, I’d love to help!  Click here to reserve your free Breakthrough Discovery Session.  In just 30 minutes, I’ll help you turn your fears into stepping stones to your next level of business and life success.  Reserve your session today: beneciaponder.com/breakthroughsession 

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Goodbye Perfectionism: Stop Doing That And Start Doing This (Breakthrough Success Strategy)

I recently had an interviewer ask me about my journey from being an attorney to following my purpose and passion as an inspirational speaker, author, and Christian life & business coach..

“What has been the most challenging part of your journey?”

My answer….the need to be perfect.

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about fulfilling my soul’s purpose, but at the same time afraid that I would suck at it.

I agonized over every little detail of my business and became paralyzed by my  need to make sure everything was “just right.” 



Perfection Paralysis Is Real

I can share this with you because I know I’m not alone.

Perfection paralysis prevents many Christian women from achieving the personal and professional success they truly desire.

 Whether it’s starting a new career, launching a business, writing a book, or even going back to school, the fear that we won’t quite be good enough holds many of us back from unleashing our fullest God-given potential.

Instead of living passionate, purposeful. and prosperous lives , we settle for much less than God’s best for us. Not because it isn’t for us, but because we won’t give ourselves permission to make event the slightest mistake.

It’s a dangerous condition.

But, perfection paralysis is not a permanent predicament.  It can be cured. 

Today, I’m going to give you one simple strategy that will help you to stop the perfection paralysis and start moving toward your fullest God-given potential.

Here we go…


Do you ever stop yourself from starting a new project because when you think about people you admire you say, “I don’t think I could ever be as good as they are…”

 Stop That!


 Because you are comparing your beginning to someone else’s ending.    

 When you hold yourself to a standard it took someone else years to attain, you’ll never be able to measure up.


 Here’s something for you to consider—Every pro started out as an amateur.

 Instead of skipping ahead to the end, start from the beginning.  Learn the skills you need to develop now to move you toward the goals you would like to accomplish.

 One of the best ways to do this is by spending time with a mentor—someone who has accomplished the things you’d like to accomplish someday.  Take your mentor out to lunch and ask her…

                How did you get started doing what you are currently doing?

                What skills did you have to develop in order to get where you are today?

                What lessons have you learned along the way?

 Chances are, you’ll discover that the person you admire had to start with similar (or maybe even much more difficult) circumstances. 


 A Step A Day Keeps The Paralysis Away.

 It doesn’t take huge leaps to overcome perfection paralysis.  Taking just one small action step a day helps you to build momentum toward your goals.  I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting, http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge.

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New Possiblities



life you want

Everything you can imagine or desire is available to you, right here and now.

All around you there are new possibilities just waiting for you to take advantage of them.

But you can’t…not if you keep holding on to what you already have.

A Point To Ponder

“No one sews a patch of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch will pull away from the garment, making the tear worse. 

 Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.” ~Matthew 9: 16 – 17 (NIV)

A Call To Action

Join us to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge .

Begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams. In this all-new 21-Day Personal Transformation Challenge, you’ll discover a whole new way of being in the world!

21 days could change everything! Sign up now,and manifest your best life!

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You have the power to choose


If you knew you could not fail...

Ponder This…

You wake up every day with the power to choose your future.

Your life today is a reflection of the choices you made yesterday.  Your life tomorrow will be determined by the choices you make today.  

What do you want tomorrow to look like?  Do you want it to be a repeat of yesterday or do you want something better?  

The great news is that you have the power to choose.

Activate Your Power To Choose

It’s time to take yoru dreams off delay.  Unlock the power that lies within you adn then summon the courage to take your first step!

I invite you to join me for B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams – a 21 day personal transformation challenge that will have you moving closer toward your dreams every day.  I’ll personally guide you to stop struggling with unfulfilled potential and start accomplishing your biggest personal and professional goals  Get your access to the challenge today at http://beneciaponder.com/challenge. 

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My true confession…

Dear Friend,

I wish I could tell you that the woman who helps everyone else go from stuck to unstoppable never gets stuck herself.      
But, that just isn’t true.    
In fact, I’ve been stuck many times in my life. And, I’ve been stuck more recently than I’d like to admit.    
Last year this time, God gave me a BIG vision that both excited and scared the crap out of me.  It is a vision that would impact the lives of thousands of women around the world.  
Yet, I sat on it.  I said, “When the time is right, I’ll do this.”  But the time never felt right so I continued to sit on it. And, I’ve been suffering the consequences.
Why am I being so transparent with you? Three reasons…
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First, I want to let you know– You are not alone.
I’ve heard from many women lately who have told me, “Benecia, I’m stuck.  I know I should be doing more, but I just haven’t.”   I’ve encouraged more women than I can count who have felt the pain of not fully living in their God-given purpose. And, I’m one of them.    
Second, I have made a decision to get unstuck. 
 I wish I could say it was becasue I’m so self motivated.  But, the truth is—I’m tired of suffering the consequences. Yes, I’ve had a good year.  God has blessed me in many ways.  He has sustained me.  But, He has also withheld His biggest promises from me.  I’ve been eating manna, when He wanted to give me milk and honey.  
Third, I want you to join me.
God has so much more in store for us.  But, we’ve got to stop stalling and start moving.    
I’m inviting you to join me for B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams.  It’s a 21 day personal transformation challenge that will help you to jumpstart your journey to your own Promised Land.  And, the best part about it is that we get to do it together! Visit BeneciaPonder.com/Challenge to join me.
And, don’t forget to share.  Someone you know may need to hear this message. Send it to them! 🙂    


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