Goodbye Perfectionism: Stop Doing That And Start Doing This (Breakthrough Success Strategy)

I recently had an interviewer ask me about my journey from being an attorney to following my purpose and passion as an inspirational speaker, author, and Christian life & business coach..

“What has been the most challenging part of your journey?”

My answer….the need to be perfect.

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about fulfilling my soul’s purpose, but at the same time afraid that I would suck at it.

I agonized over every little detail of my business and became paralyzed by my  need to make sure everything was “just right.” 



Perfection Paralysis Is Real

I can share this with you because I know I’m not alone.

Perfection paralysis prevents many Christian women from achieving the personal and professional success they truly desire.

 Whether it’s starting a new career, launching a business, writing a book, or even going back to school, the fear that we won’t quite be good enough holds many of us back from unleashing our fullest God-given potential.

Instead of living passionate, purposeful. and prosperous lives , we settle for much less than God’s best for us. Not because it isn’t for us, but because we won’t give ourselves permission to make event the slightest mistake.

It’s a dangerous condition.

But, perfection paralysis is not a permanent predicament.  It can be cured. 

Today, I’m going to give you one simple strategy that will help you to stop the perfection paralysis and start moving toward your fullest God-given potential.

Here we go…


Do you ever stop yourself from starting a new project because when you think about people you admire you say, “I don’t think I could ever be as good as they are…”

 Stop That!


 Because you are comparing your beginning to someone else’s ending.    

 When you hold yourself to a standard it took someone else years to attain, you’ll never be able to measure up.


 Here’s something for you to consider—Every pro started out as an amateur.

 Instead of skipping ahead to the end, start from the beginning.  Learn the skills you need to develop now to move you toward the goals you would like to accomplish.

 One of the best ways to do this is by spending time with a mentor—someone who has accomplished the things you’d like to accomplish someday.  Take your mentor out to lunch and ask her…

                How did you get started doing what you are currently doing?

                What skills did you have to develop in order to get where you are today?

                What lessons have you learned along the way?

 Chances are, you’ll discover that the person you admire had to start with similar (or maybe even much more difficult) circumstances. 


 A Step A Day Keeps The Paralysis Away.

 It doesn’t take huge leaps to overcome perfection paralysis.  Taking just one small action step a day helps you to build momentum toward your goals.  I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting,

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The best is yet to come

Today, I want to encourage you to allow God to close some doors in your life.

I know  this message may seem strange from someone who helps women to prosper in every aspect of their lives.  But…it’s a message that I believe you may need to hear right now…

You see, sometimes, the reason some things don’t work out is because God has something better in store for you. If you will allow Him to shut the door on the mediocre, He can open the door to the excellent in your business and life.

My advice to you:

Stop looking at those things that haven’t gone the way you expected.

Stop trying to force open those doors that God has closed. 

Trust and believe that He has something GREAT in store for you! 

A Point To Ponder:

What doors do you need to allow God to close?

Prosper Point: Your Luck Is Up To You


Do you believe in luck?

Today , on Friday the 13th, there sure is a lot of talk about it. And, a lot of people think that luck plays a big part in success.

“He was in the right place at the right time.” “She just had a lucky break.”

Thoughts like that lead us to believe that success is all left up to chance.

But that can’t be further from the truth.

The truth is – luck and good fortune follow those who leap outside of their comfort zone and move boldly into the direction of their dreams.

It’s all about taking regular steps toward your goals. You don’t have to have it all figured out or do it perfectly – just get moving. Even little baby steps will do.

Let me put it another way – “lucky” people are those who are finding opportunities because they are moving in the direction of their goals. The movement activates your faith and you begin to experience the blessings that God has had for you all along.

So, if you have been feeling a bit unlucky lately, take some steps toward your goals and watch the luck flow.

Enjoy your day! 🙂


The Costs of Not Finishing What You Start

Are You Willing To Pay The Costs?


We often hear of the discipline and sacrifices we must make to accomplish our greatest dreams.
But today I would like you to consider a different cost.

The cost of NOT going after you goals and dreams.  The cost of not sticking it out to the end.

This is something that I had to consider myself a while ago.

 When God first gave me the vision for being a business and life prosperity coach, author, and speaker, He also gave me the vision of exactly what that looked like.  But, for a while, no matter how hard I worked, that vision was still just that – a vision.

 Many times, I thought of giving up and going back to practicing law or being a business consultant.  In fact, for about a year, I put my dreams on hold and got a regular 9 to 5 to pay the bills.

 I would coach “on the side” and host various teleseminars.  Well on one particular call about goal setting, I asked the participants to consider what it was costing them not to go after their goals full force.  As we went through the exercise, that voice inside of me asked – “What about you?  What’s it costing you not to go after your goal?”

 I ignored the voice, and continued on with the call.  But, as soon as it was over, the voice came back and asked, “What is it costing you?”

 I took out a sheet of paper and here’s how I answered that question:

  • Financial Costs – $10,000 per month (the initial vision for my business was to earn $10,000 per month after expenses)
  • Emotional Costs– confidence, self esteem, happiness
  • Spiritual Costs – my intimacy with God, peace, joy
  • Physical Costs – loss of sleep, weight gain, high blood pressure
  • Costs to My Family (now this is where the tears started to flow) – I’m missing out on showing my daughter what it really means to live a full, happy, joyful life, I’m showing Amber that it’s okay not to live up to yoru fullest potential.
  • Costs to the world – women living mediocre “just getting by lives”, women missing out on living their best lives.

 When I added up all of those costs, I decided that it just wasn’t worth it.

I renewed my motivation to follow through with the vision God gave me and I haven’t looked back since.


What about you?

Whether you would like to admit it or not, not going after what you truly desire could be costing you a fortune. (And, it goes far beyond a mere financial costs)

Is that a price you are willing to pay?

Ask yourself – “What is it costing me spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially not to stick with it until the end? “

Then, go deeper and ask,  “what is it costing my family, friends, and those in the world around me for me to stay where I am right now?”


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