4 Steps to Break Through Your Fears

I have fears.  

Fear of success…Fear of failure…Fear of criticism…Fear of making the wrong decisions…and, the granddaddy of them all – Fear of not being enough. 

I wanted to share this truth with you today because there seems to be a huge misconception that fear evaporates when you reach a certain level of success. And, that’s a big fat lie!

The truth is every successful person has fears…many fears.   Our success does not come because we have learned to eliminate fear, but we succeed because we have learned to face and push past fears when they come.

Do you feel God stirring up a passion within you to share your gifts with the world, but you’re letting fear stop you from taking that first step?

Is it time to move your business and life to the next level, but you’re allowing fear to keep you stuck in your comfort zone?

My advice to you – Don’t let fear be the roadblock that keeps you from God’s best in your life.

4 Steps To Break Through Your Fears

Fear’s ultimate goal is to paralyze you and keep you from moving forward. Spending too much time trying to examine and eliminate your fears will keep you exactly where you are–stuck and stalled.

If you’re ready to get unstuck and experience big breakthroughs in your business and life, here are four steps you can take today!  

STEP ONE: Face The Fear 

Yes, right fro the start, I want you to take a good hard look at your fear.  Get really familiar with it. Understand and identify it. Give it a name.

Here’s why – Fear is an illusion.  It wants you to believe it’s a lot bigger and scarier than it actually is.  But, when you pull back the curtain and take off the mask, you realize you have nothing to be afraid of.  

STEP TWO:  Embrace The Possibilities 

When you face your fear, you will indeed look at all the things that could go wrong. But, what about what could go right?  What  could happen if you steeped out on faith, pushed past your fears and succeeded? How would your life improve?  What legacy could you leave for your family? What positive impact could you make in the world? 

This is where you take your thoughts away from your fears and instead fix your focus on the destination beyond the fear. 


 Instead of trying to hide from the negative, move in the direction of the positive possibilities you identified. 

Here’s a powerful  truth–Fear is a wimp.  It is the only thing that gets smaller the closer you move toward it. Every step you take in the direction of fear makes it shrink even more. So, take steps (even tiny baby steps) towards your new possibilities and by doing so you break through the fear that once stood in your way. 

STEP FOUR: Repeat 

Remember, success does not come in the absence of fear.  In fact, as you approach each new level in your business, fear will show up.  Before, it might have stopped you, but now, you know how to break through. 

Keep it up.  Each time you meet with a new fear, face it, embrace the positive possibilities, and take action.  Do it over and over and over again.

BONUS TIP: Share Your Fears

Having someone to support and encourage you as you go through the process of facing your fears is powerful.  But, don’t talk to just anyone. I advise you to share your fears with someone you can trust. Someone who will not judge or criticize you. And, most importantly, someone who can help you move past your fears and into action towards your dreams.

And, if you need me, I’d love to help!  Click here to reserve your free Breakthrough Discovery Session.  In just 30 minutes, I’ll help you turn your fears into stepping stones to your next level of business and life success.  Reserve your session today: beneciaponder.com/breakthroughsession 

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100 days in: Are you celebrating or regretting?

successorfailureApril 10th is a pretty special day.

In addition to celebrating my parents’  42nd wedding anniversary, April 10th  also marks the 100th day of the year.

That’s right – we’re on day 100 of 2017.  Time really flies doesn’t it?

As you allow that to sink in, I want to ask you a few questions:

  • How far have  you  been able to progress towards your goals during the first 100 days of this year?
  • Have you been implementing strategies that have made you healthier, wealthier and happier than you were at the beginning of the year?
  • If the next 100 days are like the past 100 days would you find yourself full of joy or regret?

100 days from now, where will you be?

Hopefully, this little post has given you a wake up call.

The time for procrastination is over.

Now is the time that you follow through on that plan to launch your own business. 

Now is the time to finish that manuscript and become a published author.

Now, as Henry David Thoreau so eloquently put it, is the time for you to move confidently  in the direction of your dreams!


Goodbye Perfectionism: Stop Doing That And Start Doing This (Breakthrough Success Strategy)

I recently had an interviewer ask me about my journey from being an attorney to following my purpose and passion as an inspirational speaker, author, and Christian life & business coach..

“What has been the most challenging part of your journey?”

My answer….the need to be perfect.

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about fulfilling my soul’s purpose, but at the same time afraid that I would suck at it.

I agonized over every little detail of my business and became paralyzed by my  need to make sure everything was “just right.” 



Perfection Paralysis Is Real

I can share this with you because I know I’m not alone.

Perfection paralysis prevents many Christian women from achieving the personal and professional success they truly desire.

 Whether it’s starting a new career, launching a business, writing a book, or even going back to school, the fear that we won’t quite be good enough holds many of us back from unleashing our fullest God-given potential.

Instead of living passionate, purposeful. and prosperous lives , we settle for much less than God’s best for us. Not because it isn’t for us, but because we won’t give ourselves permission to make event the slightest mistake.

It’s a dangerous condition.

But, perfection paralysis is not a permanent predicament.  It can be cured. 

Today, I’m going to give you one simple strategy that will help you to stop the perfection paralysis and start moving toward your fullest God-given potential.

Here we go…


Do you ever stop yourself from starting a new project because when you think about people you admire you say, “I don’t think I could ever be as good as they are…”

 Stop That!


 Because you are comparing your beginning to someone else’s ending.    

 When you hold yourself to a standard it took someone else years to attain, you’ll never be able to measure up.


 Here’s something for you to consider—Every pro started out as an amateur.

 Instead of skipping ahead to the end, start from the beginning.  Learn the skills you need to develop now to move you toward the goals you would like to accomplish.

 One of the best ways to do this is by spending time with a mentor—someone who has accomplished the things you’d like to accomplish someday.  Take your mentor out to lunch and ask her…

                How did you get started doing what you are currently doing?

                What skills did you have to develop in order to get where you are today?

                What lessons have you learned along the way?

 Chances are, you’ll discover that the person you admire had to start with similar (or maybe even much more difficult) circumstances. 


 A Step A Day Keeps The Paralysis Away.

 It doesn’t take huge leaps to overcome perfection paralysis.  Taking just one small action step a day helps you to build momentum toward your goals.  I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting, http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge.

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How To Increase Your Personal Productivity with a Time Budget

There are people who pride themselves on their organizational skills. They get everything on their “to-do” list done every day and never seem to waste a minute of their time. If you are one of these people – CONGRATULATIONS!

If, however, you are anything like most Americans, you end the day wondering where the time went. If only there were more hours in the day…you’d be able to exercise more…you’d actually finish that book you’ve been trying to write for the past two years…you’d be able to get more sleep. You just need a little bit more time.

The truth is…. The 24 hours we have in each day is all we’re going to get. No more time is being created and that makes time our most valuable asset. If you want to protect this asset, you must learn to invest it wisely.

Stop Trying To Manage Your Time
The amount of time you have is not the problem – your habits are. Instead of trying to manage your time, decide to manage yourself. Get rid of all the time wasters like television, constantly checking your email, and incessant gossip. Determine what’s been wasting your time and deal with it today.

Learn To Budget Your Time
Using a financial budget is a pretty common concept for people trying to manage their money. But, what about your time? Time is more valuable than money, yet we spend less than 5 minutes each day planning our daily tasks.

Take a moment to write down all the activities you want to do today (work, family time, exercise, meetings, and don’t forget to add eating and sleeping). Next, write down how long it will take you to complete each task. If the number is more than 24 you have a time deficit. You’ll have to adjust. Keep adjusting until you get a balanced budget.

Stop Trying To Do It All
It’s a big mistake to try to do a little bit of everything every day. You want to exercise, read a new book, spend quality time with your family, pamper yourself, chat with friends, clean the house, and of course, get enough rest each night to function the next day. So, you put in a little bit of it all into your daily schedule.

But, instead of feeling more productive, you feel stressed and frustrated. And what’s worse, you still have lots of items left on your to-do list. Set priorities and do first things first. If there are too many things in your schedule, delegate or eliminate them all together. Remember, “no” is an acceptable answer.

Focus On What Matters Most


I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting,http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge.

Brought to you by Benecia Ponder, dedicated to helping you live with an abundance of passion, purpose, power, and prosperity!

About Your Coach
Benecia Ponder is a professional speaker, author, and certified personal and executive coach. She is the nation’s leading total life transformation specialist for Christian women entrepreneurs helping them to navigate professional and personal change so they can live to their fullest God-given potential while enjoying an abundance of peace and happiness. To learn more, visit beneciaponder.com.

The Laser Coaching Moment with Benecia Ponder is written and produced by Benecia Ponder. If you have any questions or comments, or for reprint permission of this newsletter, please email: success@beneciaponder.com.

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New Possiblities



life you want

Everything you can imagine or desire is available to you, right here and now.

All around you there are new possibilities just waiting for you to take advantage of them.

But you can’t…not if you keep holding on to what you already have.

A Point To Ponder

“No one sews a patch of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch will pull away from the garment, making the tear worse. 

 Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.” ~Matthew 9: 16 – 17 (NIV)

A Call To Action

Join us to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge .

Begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams. In this all-new 21-Day Personal Transformation Challenge, you’ll discover a whole new way of being in the world!

21 days could change everything! Sign up now,and manifest your best life!

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