Goodbye Perfectionism: Stop Doing That And Start Doing This (Breakthrough Success Strategy)

I recently had an interviewer ask me about my journey from being an attorney to following my purpose and passion as an inspirational speaker, author, and Christian life & business coach..

“What has been the most challenging part of your journey?”

My answer….the need to be perfect.

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about fulfilling my soul’s purpose, but at the same time afraid that I would suck at it.

I agonized over every little detail of my business and became paralyzed by my  need to make sure everything was “just right.” 

 

 

Perfection Paralysis Is Real

I can share this with you because I know I’m not alone.

Perfection paralysis prevents many Christian women from achieving the personal and professional success they truly desire.

 Whether it’s starting a new career, launching a business, writing a book, or even going back to school, the fear that we won’t quite be good enough holds many of us back from unleashing our fullest God-given potential.

Instead of living passionate, purposeful. and prosperous lives , we settle for much less than God’s best for us. Not because it isn’t for us, but because we won’t give ourselves permission to make event the slightest mistake.

It’s a dangerous condition.

But, perfection paralysis is not a permanent predicament.  It can be cured. 

Today, I’m going to give you one simple strategy that will help you to stop the perfection paralysis and start moving toward your fullest God-given potential.

Here we go…

STOP THAT!

Do you ever stop yourself from starting a new project because when you think about people you admire you say, “I don’t think I could ever be as good as they are…”

 Stop That!

 Why?

 Because you are comparing your beginning to someone else’s ending.    

 When you hold yourself to a standard it took someone else years to attain, you’ll never be able to measure up.

 START THIS

 Here’s something for you to consider—Every pro started out as an amateur.

 Instead of skipping ahead to the end, start from the beginning.  Learn the skills you need to develop now to move you toward the goals you would like to accomplish.

 One of the best ways to do this is by spending time with a mentor—someone who has accomplished the things you’d like to accomplish someday.  Take your mentor out to lunch and ask her…

                How did you get started doing what you are currently doing?

                What skills did you have to develop in order to get where you are today?

                What lessons have you learned along the way?

 Chances are, you’ll discover that the person you admire had to start with similar (or maybe even much more difficult) circumstances. 

 START THIS, TOO!

 A Step A Day Keeps The Paralysis Away.

 It doesn’t take huge leaps to overcome perfection paralysis.  Taking just one small action step a day helps you to build momentum toward your goals.  I invite you to join me  to start manifesting your deepest desires in my all-new, transformative journey, B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams– 21 Day Breakthrough Challenge In just 21 days, you’ll begin to tap into your true power source to fulfill your life . . . and your dreams.  Claim your access to the challenge by visiting, http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge.

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You have the power to choose

 

If you knew you could not fail...

Ponder This…

You wake up every day with the power to choose your future.

Your life today is a reflection of the choices you made yesterday.  Your life tomorrow will be determined by the choices you make today.  

What do you want tomorrow to look like?  Do you want it to be a repeat of yesterday or do you want something better?  

The great news is that you have the power to choose.

Activate Your Power To Choose

It’s time to take yoru dreams off delay.  Unlock the power that lies within you adn then summon the courage to take your first step!

I invite you to join me for B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams – a 21 day personal transformation challenge that will have you moving closer toward your dreams every day.  I’ll personally guide you to stop struggling with unfulfilled potential and start accomplishing your biggest personal and professional goals  Get your access to the challenge today at http://beneciaponder.com/challenge. 

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Facing Change? 4 Positive Perspectives To Help You Thrive In The Midst Of Change

Does change hit you hard?

If you answered “yes”…why do you think that is?

It could be because change, when taken at face value,  represents an upset in the status quo – a disruption of your comfort zone. And, when the change is something big,  it can send your stress levels sky-high, and rob you of your peace of mind.

But we have to ask ourselves why.

We know that change is inevitable and there’s really no way around it. But people still fret about it, worry about what’s lurking around the corner, and wonder when the proverbial “other shoe” is going to drop.

This is no way to go through life!

So the next time change brews up in your life, try shifting your view, approach it differently, and remember the following: 

  1. View the change as an opportunity for personal growth. See and accept life’s challenges as a way of personally developing into more than you thought you could be.  Bettering your life can only happen by first removing what is holding it back.  The ‘old set’ has to be torn down first before a new, more vibrant one can be built. This is the only way circumstances will improve.
  2. Recognize that change is hard to swallow in just one gulp.  Give yourself the time needed to accept change on your own internal timetable.  Your internal clock ticks at a time different than anybody else’s.  We transition through many stages of change that can range from denial on the one hand to commitment on the other.  This process takes a different amount of time for each person.  Surrender to the process and accept however long it will take to work your way through these stages of change.  If others can get through change quickly, well good for them.  Go only at the pace that’s right for you.
  3. Conserve your energy.  People spend so much energy fighting and resisting change rather than using their energy in more productive ways of acceptance and letting go.  We can choose to channel our energy in more positive ways that can make us feel empowered to deal with change rather than seeing ourselves as mere victims to change.  When we direct our energy toward more positive ways of dealing with change, we invariably create better change outcomes.
  4. Accept change.  Don’t just give the change in your life a handshake – embrace it!  Welcome the chance to emerge from a difficult situation with much more strength than you possibly imagined you possessed.  Strength brings confidence, and confidence is the necessary precursor to success. 

And, if nothing else, remember this…

You have the power to be unstoppable!

You may not be able to control the changes in your life, but you CAN control how you handle them.   And when YOU’RE in control… When YOU call the shots…YOUR life becomes much easier, joyful and fulfilling.

 A great way to get started shifting your perspective and gaining control of your life (no matter what it throws your way)  is to claim your Free Instant Access to my bran new “Live The Live You Live” e-course when you visit http://UnstoppableYouRevolution.com

You’ll learn how to maximize your fullest potential and create the levels of success you desire – in every aspect of your life.

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3 Questions That Will Boost Your Happiness Right Now


A lot of times I’ll hear people say…”I’ll be happy when….”

 “I’ll be happy when I find the love of my life. ”  

“I’ll be happy when I have my dream job.”

“I’ll be happy when I have more money in the bank.”

They put off happiness as if it’s a destination that they have to travel to. When in reality, happiness is something that you can have every single day, no matter how much money you have in the bank, no matter who you spouse is (or isn’t),  no matter what job you’re going to.

You can have happiness in every moment of your life.

PROSPER POINT

Dennis Waitley said – “Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace & gratitude.”

Today, I have three questions for you:

  1. Where is the love in your life?
  2. How has God shown you grace and favor?
  3. What are you grateful for?

When you answer those questions, you’ll come to recognize that you have a lot to be happy about right now…you don’t have to wait another moment!

The best is yet to come

Today, I want to encourage you to allow God to close some doors in your life.

I know  this message may seem strange from someone who helps women to prosper in every aspect of their lives.  But…it’s a message that I believe you may need to hear right now…

You see, sometimes, the reason some things don’t work out is because God has something better in store for you. If you will allow Him to shut the door on the mediocre, He can open the door to the excellent in your business and life.

My advice to you:

Stop looking at those things that haven’t gone the way you expected.

Stop trying to force open those doors that God has closed. 

Trust and believe that He has something GREAT in store for you! 

A Point To Ponder:

What doors do you need to allow God to close?